While, individually, the following behavioral traits do not mean an adult is a child predator … a combination of certain behavioral traits do need to, seriously, send up red flags.
Predators will often use teasing and demeaning words to laugh off, or deny … a child from setting boundaries in physical closeness.
Predators will insist on touching, hugging a child, even when it is clear the child does not want the attention.
Many predators will use “tickling” or “wrestling” “games” to get physically close to a child.
Predators may make a habit of “accidentally” walking in on a child who is in a bathroom, or a room, where the child may be changing clothes.
While it may be just “misguided” parenting … predators do allow, if not encourage … children to get away with inappropriate behaviors.
If he/she seems “too good to be true” … then, more than likely … he/she is. This person may want to babysit, frequently, without pay, or likes to buy an excessive number of gifts, gives them money … or likes to take them out, often … on “special outings,” … alone.
Lastly … and, this is most certainly something I can attest to: He/she points out sexual images and makes suggestive, vulgar jokes with children present … and … will expose the child to adult sexual interactions or images, without concern for the child’s presence. And … heed this … they are overly interested in the sexuality of a particular child or teen. (ie, a female child’s developing breasts, etc.)
Debbie Barth:11/07/2018 at 3:49 pm ET
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Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone. Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them.
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