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JOE’S STORY

There are so many stories to be told.  So many young …  innocent … boys and girls … who have experienced the heinous acts of sexual predators, at some point in their lives.  But there are still so few that come forward to speak of their experiences, the trauma, the loss of innocence, or the struggles they continue to have.  And … the sexual predators … continue to maintain their power.

I came across Joe’s story, the other day.  I contacted him.  He was gracious enough to allow me to share his story in my blog.  I am honored by his trust and confidence in me.  I am grateful that he is willing to share so that others may also find the strength to come forward.  The only way to take the power away from the predators is to talk to our very small children about predators … and, for those unfortunate to have experienced sexual molestation … in any degree … to … tell someone.

I am always here to listen.

Below is Joe’s story.  I have not altered or edited anything below.
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Joe Lovell

May 18 at 6:04 PM ·

I needed to take time to get my thoughts together before trying to put this into words. In the past I haven’t always practiced patience.

Yesterday I read a post that sent forty-five years of bad memories in motion. The post was regarding the death of someone that made a significant impact on my life, and it was most definitely not a good experience.

I don’t recall the exact month, but in 1972 I was molested. Unfortunately this wasn’t the first time. Two years earlier, during the sixth grade, I was the target of a pedophile that lived in our community. By the Grace of God a family member showed up before the sicko could get any further than pulling my pants down. I was terrified and crying but he quickly made me believe it was my fault and I would be in big trouble if I told anyone. I would later learn this is how they operate.

I never said anything to anyone, then it happened again two years later. I was walking home from work one night, yes, I was already working in the eight grade, when another adult male stopped and offered me a ride home. Why would I think twice? He was a cop! Once I was inside the car he reached over and put his hand on my crotch. At first I froze because I couldn’t believe what was happening. I then moved his hand. A few seconds later he grabbed me again. I again moved his hand and told him to stop and let me out. Nothing else was said and I didn’t tell anyone. Who was going to believe a cop, a Vietnam vet and married father of two would do such a thing?

Some time later there was a lot of talk around the neighborhood. It was clear this was his regular practice. I still kept it to myself, mostly out of shame.

Well into my late twenties I was visiting with my mother when she told me the first individual had died of a heart attack. It wasn’t until that moment that I told her what had happened, but I still didn’t say anything about the second time. She was shocked but then understood why I never wanted to go fishing with him again.

I carried a lot of grief and shame for a long time. Those two events made me doubt myself. I kept wondering why was this sort of behavior coming from grown men. As I grew up I had very few male friends. Heck, to this day I have very few male friends. The experiences left me unable to trust men. There was always the little kid in me afraid they had an agenda. I gravitated to women which was just fine with me.

A few years ago I ran across a Facebook post from the same cop that had been molesting God only knows how many young boys forty years ago. After I made contact I asked if he was the same person that was a patrolman when I was growing. Not only did he confirm, he started hitting on me in the chat. I wanted to puke! At that point I asked if he was still a pedophile and roaming the streets for young boys. Crickets! He disappeared and he never contacted me again.

When I heard he was dead, it opened a flood of bad memories. It was especially heartbreaking to learn his behavior went on until 1987 when there was at least enough evidence to get him off the police force. I have since read transcripts of what led up to his dismissal. Actually, he resigned rather than appear in a hearing and have to take the stand to save his job. That speaks volumes!

Not only was this pervert a policeman and in a controlling position of authority, he was also deeply entrenched with the Boy Scouts. I dread to think about how many young boys were victims. The transcripts also details the Boy Scouts investigation and his removal.

I am sharing this for one reason and one reason only. I know there are thousands of others that need to speak up. There’s no reason the victims should carry the burden. Our communities are littered with pedophiles that continue to get away with it simply because the victims believe the lie.

If you have been a victim of pedophilia, or know someone that has, please speak up. These sickos do not stop unless the get caught or die.

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Debbie Barth: 5/22/2019 at 5:58 pm EDT

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GREENSBORO DAY-CARE WORKER ARRESTED IN CHILD PORNOGRAPY CASE

A very sad day for any parent with children in day-care schools.  A woman was arrested in a child-pornography case, in Greensboro, North Carolina.

Parents, we can only do so much to keep our children safe, but every little bit helps.  Don’t take for granted that people who work in day-care centers have been thoroughly checked out.  I would hope this is the case, but apparently, in this case … she either … was not checked out thoroughly … or … this sick behavior began after she was hired.

We all need to be vigilant … ask questions about who is working at these day care centers … ask if a thorough background check has been done on each one.  Drop in occasionally … unannounced, if at all possible.  And, if you have a “feeling” something might not be right … don’t ignore that feeling!

And … please … talk with your small children as soon as possible!  I guarantee you that child predators count on getting to your children, before you do!

Ref:  myfox8.com

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4/5/2019 8:50 pm

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The Judge Who Was Arrested for Sex Crimes Against A Child

There are no definitive physical attributes that singles out child abusers.  There is no nationality, no race, no gender.  And, there is no occupation which clearly defines them.

In fact, certain occupations may  help child abusers shield them … from… suspicion.  For, example … being a trusted Superior Court Judge.

Parents … as much as we try to protect our children … unless we sit down and speak with them about child abusers, the dangers, how to stay alert … we can be letting them down.  We need to make sure they know that … no matter who it is … family, friend, relative, neighbor, or stranger, or the situation … our children know they can come directly to us for support.

We can never just … assume … they will.  And, we can never assume that every person who is … in a “position of trust” … is trusting.

As … in this very real case … of a Superior Court Judge.  Click on link, below, and read article.

4/4/2019  2:54 pm

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When Adults are with Children, Watch Out for These Behaviors

While, individually, the following behavioral traits do not mean an adult is a child predator … a combination of certain behavioral traits do need to, seriously, send up red flags.

Predators will often use teasing and demeaning words to laugh off, or deny … a child from setting boundaries in physical closeness.

Predators will insist on touching, hugging a child, even when it is clear the child does not want the attention.

Many predators will use “tickling” or “wrestling” “games” to get physically close to a child.

Predators may make a habit of “accidentally” walking in on a child who is in a bathroom, or a room, where the child may be changing clothes.

While it may be just “misguided” parenting … predators do allow, if not encourage … children to get away with inappropriate behaviors.

If he/she seems “too good to be true” … then, more than likely … he/she is.  This person may want to babysit, frequently, without pay, or likes to buy an excessive number of gifts, gives them money … or likes to take them out, often … on “special outings,” … alone.

Lastly … and, this is most certainly something I can attest to:  He/she points out sexual images and makes suggestive, vulgar jokes with children present … and … will expose the child to adult sexual interactions or images, without concern for the child’s presence.  And … heed this … they are overly interested in the sexuality of a particular child or teen. (ie, a female child’s developing breasts, etc.)

 

Debbie Barth:11/07/2018 at 3:49 pm ET
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Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone.  Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them.
The book is available on Amazon and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com

 

“This piece is on my “Tell Someone” blog, located at http://www.thisisdebbiebarth.com.  There are real stories, there … and … I pray that your child never experiences anything like I write about.” … Debbie Barth

 

 

The Sick Hypocrisy of the Left

Kathy Griffin … the bloody head.  Madonna … dreaming about blowing up the White House.  Antifa beating up pedestrians.  A teacher pretending to shoot President Trump in front of her students.  Snoop Dog, shooting the President in a Video. And … a play depicting the assassination of our President.

Corey Booker- “Get up in the face of some congresspeople”

Maxine Waters – “”Let’s make sure we show up wherever we have to show up. And if you see anybody from that Cabinet in a restaurant, in a department store, at a gasoline station, you get out and you create a crowd. And you push back on them. And you tell them they’re not welcome anymore, anywhere.”

Eric Holder – “when Republicans “go low,” Democrats should “kick them.”

Hillary Clinton suggesting there will be no civility until “we” regain power.

Former President Obama’s only response to “What do we want, dead cops … when do we want it … now” chant was that “he understood the anger.”

Truthfully … there is only one person or group responsible for sending out the packages with bombs (none of which, at the time of writing, was detonated,) no one else.

However … for the Democrats and left media to put the blame on President Trump because of his … rhetoric … is sheer lunacy and the sickest form of hypocrisy.

 

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Debbie Barth: 10/25/2018 at 10:36 pm ET

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Is the Left Behind the Bomb-Packages Today?

I swear I am not a conspiracy theorist and I’m sure I have friends that would back me up on that. But … this “bomb threat” of five people on the left … is just not ringing true to me. How about you?

  1. Not one of the Five packaged bombs detonated.
  1. The bombs were sent to locations where the “intended” would not have actually picked up and opened the package.
  1. The above 1 and 2 is for all FIVE “bombs.” In effect … the intended recipients …were never in real harm.

After the calls for violence came from people like Booker, Holder, Harris, and Waters … and … encouragement/understanding of violence from Obama and Clinton … perhaps, someone on the left decided they needed a “face-lift” before the mid-term elections.

Could it really be true that this was a ruse by the Democrats to drum up some sympathy and support from their base and … hopefully, increase their chances for wins in the House and Senate? Can they be that desperate and low?

But wait, there is another side. Yes … this really could be some misguided kind of “message” by a right-winger or right-wing group.

It could be the first of a wave of bombs. Bombs that will detonate, next time.

Whichever is the case … someone was successful in disrupting the afternoon and the need for a huge police presence in all the areas … the cordon of multiple areas … bomb experts … the FBI … and a lot of time investigating today’s events.

If this was an attempt at mass murder, the person or group proved their ineptness.

But, if this was a warning or message to “scare” Democrats, the person (or group) behind this have wasted a lot of time and have ruined their lives and their families … when, and if caught.

There is also the possibility that this was a “first wave” of future, more deadly attacks.

I frankly don’t know what to expect, regarding the investigation, now underway.

What I do believe is … if the investigation does not lead to the arrest of a person … or persons … there will always be that lingering feeling that this was no more that an elaborate ruse by someone in the Democrat Party … be it an official or a left-wing organization.

 

https://www.foxnews.com/politics/suspicious-packages-addressed-to-obama-clinton-others-a-full-list-of-recipients

 

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Debbie Barth: 10/24/2018 at 7:32pm ET

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DR. SEBASTIAN GORKA EXPLAINS THE MEDIA’S ADULATION OF KHASHOGGI … SO WELL

I have wondered why the liberal media has given the death of Jamal Khashoggi so much coverage and adulation.  Yes, it was a very gruesome death … according to “sources.”  But, there has been much less coverage of the shootings in Chicago … or … of the man nearly beaten to death with a bicycle lock in Bryant Park, Manhattan, N.Y … than there has been about this Saudi nationalist, opinion writer … with dubious family connections.

Khashoggi was the nephew of late, high-profile Saudi Arabian arms dealer Adnan Khashoggi, known for his part in the Iran-Contra scandal, who was estimated to have had a net worth of US $4 billion in the early 1980s.

Khashoggi was a first cousin of Dodi Fayed, who was dating Diana, Princess of Wales, when the two were killed in a car crash in Paris.

Khashoggi was a friend of the Osama Bin Laden family … and, had several meetings with Osama, before September 11, 2001.

I wonder just how much Jamal Khashoggi really knew about the impending tragedy of Sept. 11, or the real truth behind the car crash that killed Fayed and the Princess of Wales.

I agree with the comments made by Dr. Sebastian Gorka.  I believe the article he wrote for American Greatness, entitled “Why the Media Couldn’t Care Less About Khashoggi” is simply brilliant and … a must read.  His comment within the article and the link to the article is below.

“Khashoggi did not deserve to be killed. At the same time, in their coverage of his murder, the majority of the American media has proven that they do not deserve America’s respect.” … Dr. Sebastian Gorka

https://amgreatness.com/2018/10/20/why-the-media-couldnt-care-less-about-khashoggi/?fbclid=IwAR1n60DpULVW4Znggx3vm5Sxs_15FjOyILVknikQgglxau-iy8AhrKTCAck

 

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 Debbie Barth: 10/23/2018 at 12:23 pm ET

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Hear The One About The Man Who Crashed Into a Broadcasting Studio?

A man deliberately crashes into the Fox 4 studio, in Dallas, and screams … “Treason!”

Once he is locked away from sane people … he should have lots of time for reading. I suggest … the dictionary would be a great start.

He is another person who has been manipulated by the Democrat/Socialist/Left.

They don’t care that he faces jail time. They don’t care that he now has a criminal record (of course, he may already have one) and … they don’t care about any financial loses he may now incur …. nope … he might get a pat on the head … maybe.

And one day … if there is still a live brain cell in the gooey mass floating inside his head … he may realize … he was used.

Ref:

http://www.fox4news.com/news/man-arrested-after-crashing-truck-into-fox4-building-in-downtown-dallas

 

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Debbie Barth: 9/05/2018 at 1:45 pm ET

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PIMPS RECRUITING GIRLS ON FACEBOOK AND INSTAGRAM

A Fort Worth pimp known as “Zigg” has been sentenced to life in federal prison for sex-trafficking children in a statewide operation that existed for more than a year.

He and other co-defendants provided cellphones, rooms, lubricants and condoms, and used threats of violence, sexual assault and intimidation to control the victims, according to federal prosecutors.

Some of the young girls were recruited on Facebook and Instagram.

Child predators, pimps, and child traffickers are no longer limited to a certain locale in their hunt for vulnerable small children and teenagers.  The internet has given them a world-wide audience in which to find and trap their prey.

The predators use social media sites to seek young and impressionable children, offering them jobs as models or a part in a movie that doesn’t exist.  Predators feed on the insecurities and naiveté of the young, and … are experts at manipulation and entrapment.  Predators start with the very young.  As a parent … so should you!

I suggest you talk to your children about child predators at the earliest age appropriate for your child.  Explain what a child predator is and where they can be found.  Explain to your child, the methods often used by a child predator.  Knowledge is the best protection you can give your child.

Ref:  https://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/community/fort-worth/article215978610.html

 

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Debbie Barth: 9/04/2018 at 5:35 pm ET

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I WANT TO TELL YOU ABOUT TWO MAJOR IMPACTS OF CHILD ABUSE

According to the National Child Abuse Coalition.org, below are two impacts of child abuse.  I should know.  I experienced them.

  • Child abuse and neglect impede the brain’s development and have long-term consequences for cognitive, language, and academic abilities.
  • The emotional effects of abuse and neglect can contribute to low self-esteem, depression, and relationship difficulties.

I know that I initially made very good grades in schools … and, then … I wasn’t.  I remember my elementary school so much more vividly than any other grade-level.  I remember the smells in the class rooms of chalk, crayons, and books.  I remember sitting with schoolmates in the cafeteria, making faces … swapping foods …and, the chatter.  I remember running in the playground, playing Red Rover …sharing secrets with friends … and, the laughter.

I don’t remember, however … the exact date … it stopped.  I don’t remember the date I started making average grades (if that good.)  I don’t remember when the school became less a place of learning, games, fun and friendships, and more of a place of solace and retreat.

I don’t remember when I stopped wanting to share … “secrets” with my friends.  I can’t remember when I felt more in control, when alone.  I can’t remember when I started feeling inadequate or taking offense at anything someone said … and, striking back at them … often, much to their surprise.  I can’t remember the date I placed an invisible shield around me.

I do remember … it wasn’t long after … the sexual abuse started.

Ref:  https://nationalchildabusecoalition.org

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Debbie Barth: 8/30/2018 at 5:52 pm ET

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