It happens when you least expect it. You are just setting at your desk tweeting with your newest BTFF (best twitter follower forever) or you are texting your thoughts on Facebook’s new Graph Search to the world while getting your wisdom teeth pulled out at the dentist …. and it happens … you’ve been “grouped.” You start noticing all these new Facebook notifications concerning a group called “Pygmies … Why Women Love Them” …. and you have no idea why your email is filling up with these. You do not know any pygmies … or women who love them. The simple truth is that Facebook allows members to add you to any group without asking you first …. no kiss first … no dinner. People can just “group” you at will. While the “perp’s” justification is that you are so awesome, you have been invited to the party … or your wisdom and participation are so valued … they are not considering the fact that most people really do want to be asked first.
With all that being said, let me also say that there are some phenomenal groups in Facebook of which I am blessed and honored to be a part. It is because of these groups that I have met some of the most awesome people on the planet. Some with whom, I have established a close and long-lasting relationship.
I guess I am an old fashion gal who does not like to be taken for granted. I prefer being asked first. In fact, if I found out I have been added to a group without an invitation first … I will … every time … just leave immediately. And, that is what I did with the three groups I found myself added to this morning.
I also know that there will be those who read this and will think I am referring specifically to them, and that is not true. I simply adore my FB friends … including the ones involved in the most recent … “gang-group”. And I would hope the feeling is mutual.
Simply put …ask me to the party … and I will come with my dance shoes on (I can’t guarantee how much time I have to participate.) But, don’t take me for granted …. and just don’t “group” me.
This Is Really Debbie Barth 