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When Adults are with Children, Watch Out for These Behaviors

While, individually, the following behavioral traits do not mean an adult is a child predator … a combination of certain behavioral traits do need to, seriously, send up red flags.

Predators will often use teasing and demeaning words to laugh off, or deny … a child from setting boundaries in physical closeness.

Predators will insist on touching, hugging a child, even when it is clear the child does not want the attention.

Many predators will use “tickling” or “wrestling” “games” to get physically close to a child.

Predators may make a habit of “accidentally” walking in on a child who is in a bathroom, or a room, where the child may be changing clothes.

While it may be just “misguided” parenting … predators do allow, if not encourage … children to get away with inappropriate behaviors.

If he/she seems “too good to be true” … then, more than likely … he/she is.  This person may want to babysit, frequently, without pay, or likes to buy an excessive number of gifts, gives them money … or likes to take them out, often … on “special outings,” … alone.

Lastly … and, this is most certainly something I can attest to:  He/she points out sexual images and makes suggestive, vulgar jokes with children present … and … will expose the child to adult sexual interactions or images, without concern for the child’s presence.  And … heed this … they are overly interested in the sexuality of a particular child or teen. (ie, a female child’s developing breasts, etc.)

 

Debbie Barth:11/07/2018 at 3:49 pm ET
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Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone.  Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them.
The book is available on Amazon and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com

 

“This piece is on my “Tell Someone” blog, located at http://www.thisisdebbiebarth.com.  There are real stories, there … and … I pray that your child never experiences anything like I write about.” … Debbie Barth

 

 

He Knew How to Hide the Monster, Inside. Larry Nassar Sentenced

USA Gymnastics team doctor Larry Nassar was sentenced on Wednesday to 40 to 175 years in prison for molesting young female gymnasts.

He is already serving a 60-year sentence in federal prison for child pornography convictions.

He was a man who was well-known and entrusted with training and developing the spirit and mind of young girls, whose aspiration … was to be a famous gymnast. Instead, he abused his authority. He broke the spirit and the mind of many of these young girls.

The questions are many.  Who knew what he was really doing? How did he get away with it for so long … and, with so many young girls? Why didn’t the girls speak out, at the time?

I don’t have answers to all the questions, but I can tell you what I believe, concerning the young girl’s silence, at the time it was happening. This man was in a position of leadership and authority. He apparently was respected by many. He knew how to hide the monster inside. He knew how to gain their confidence. He knew how to manipulate them. He knew they would not tell anyone. And … that … is the power that child predators have over their victims. Children, usually have been manipulated, groomed, and/or threatened to believe that no one would believe them or that that the predator could extract harm to them or their loved ones.

So, how do we trip up the predators? How do we stop them from harming our children?

We talk to them! We talk to them about child predators as soon as we feel we can get our message across. We have to approach our children … before the predators do!

This is why I wrote “The Promise Book; Tell Someone.” This small book makes it easy for young children to understand the much-needed message about child predators, without confusing and scaring them. Children need to hear from you … before something happens … that they can come to you for support, no matter who that predator might be. With the movies and songs, and peer pressure young children experience, today … the need to know that it is not acceptable for someone to touch them and make them feel uncomfortable, is greater than ever. It is up to us, as parents and guardians, to send that message, before … a child’s spirit is broken … not after.

The blame for the misery these young gymnasts experienced falls completely on this monster, Larry Nassar. However, perhaps the next predator can be stop, and a child spared … if we talk to them first … and they, in turn … tell someone.

The Promise Book; Tell Someone is available at Amazon and www.thisisdebbiebarth.com

Below is a link to the Nassar story:

https://www.msn.com/en-us/sports/more-sports/ex-usa-gymnastics-doctor-sentenced-to-175-years-for-sexual-abuse/ar-AAv6lUU?li=BBmkt5R&ocid=spartandhp

 

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 Debbie Barth: 1/24/2018 at 5:01 pm ET

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