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When Adults are with Children, Watch Out for These Behaviors

While, individually, the following behavioral traits do not mean an adult is a child predator … a combination of certain behavioral traits do need to, seriously, send up red flags.

Predators will often use teasing and demeaning words to laugh off, or deny … a child from setting boundaries in physical closeness.

Predators will insist on touching, hugging a child, even when it is clear the child does not want the attention.

Many predators will use “tickling” or “wrestling” “games” to get physically close to a child.

Predators may make a habit of “accidentally” walking in on a child who is in a bathroom, or a room, where the child may be changing clothes.

While it may be just “misguided” parenting … predators do allow, if not encourage … children to get away with inappropriate behaviors.

If he/she seems “too good to be true” … then, more than likely … he/she is.  This person may want to babysit, frequently, without pay, or likes to buy an excessive number of gifts, gives them money … or likes to take them out, often … on “special outings,” … alone.

Lastly … and, this is most certainly something I can attest to:  He/she points out sexual images and makes suggestive, vulgar jokes with children present … and … will expose the child to adult sexual interactions or images, without concern for the child’s presence.  And … heed this … they are overly interested in the sexuality of a particular child or teen. (ie, a female child’s developing breasts, etc.)

 

Debbie Barth:11/07/2018 at 3:49 pm ET
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Debbie Barth is the author of The Promise Book: Tell Someone.  Her goal is to aid parents who understand the necessity of talking to their children about child predators in way that doesn’t confuse or scare them.
The book is available on Amazon and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com

 

“This piece is on my “Tell Someone” blog, located at http://www.thisisdebbiebarth.com.  There are real stories, there … and … I pray that your child never experiences anything like I write about.” … Debbie Barth

 

 

KNOW SOMEONE WHO FITS THIS PROFILE?

According to www.childpredators.com:

When compared to girls who are sexually active with boys near their own age, these girls (those who have been sexually abused) are more likely to:

  • have multiple sex partners
  • drop out of school
  • engage in dangerous sexual behaviors
  • become pregnant
  • run away from home
  • be lured into prostitution
  • abuse drugs or alcohol
  • end up on welfare
  • be estranged from friends and family
  • be in physically abusive relationships
  • become divorced

Trust me when I say … I didn’t need to double-check these statics.  There will be women who read this, and know how true this is.  This is the profile for young girls who have been sexually abused.  Anyone you recognize?  If so … reach out to them.

Or … we can, as parents … sit down with our children … as soon as possible … and, talk with them about child predators. We can, as parents … let them know that no one has a right to touch them in private areas.  We can, as parents … let them know we are there for them … we love them … we support them … and … that … they CAN “tell someone.”  We can stop this … before it begins.

“Together, we are pulling out the weeds!”

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Debbie Barth: 05/24/2017 at 4:45:34:06 pm EDT
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The Beginning of “The Beginning”

I am excited to announce that “The Promise Book; Tell Someone” is now available at Amazon.com and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com.  The book is the key to the vehicle allowing parents to talk with their small children about child predators without frightening or intimidating them.  The website, for this book, also includes a blog that will express my experiences, as well as the experiences of others.  From time to time, I will share those blogs, here as well.

However, I will also continue my thoughts on all subjects known to mankind.  So … stay tuned.

Here is the first blog from my new www.thisisdebbiebarth.com.  The subject matter is not always easy to write about, but, it is a subject that needs to be addressed … and, combated.

 

Only The Beginning

 

It was a day … just like any other day.  The walk home from elementary school … was like any other walk.  Yes, it was like any other day … until she walked through the front door, into the living room.

He appeared to be asleep, with his face and body turned toward the back sofa cushions.  He was completely undressed.  He must have heard her come in, and knew that she was standing there.  He turned over, looked at her … and smiled.

She was feeling uncomfortable, and yet, unable to move.  He was lying there, undressed, now … staring at her.  He had such a strange smile on his face.  He told her to come closer.  She did.

He took her hand and put on his … “private part.”  It was so quite in the house.  She couldn’t breathe.  His smile became even wider, even stranger.  And then … he let her hand go.

He said, “go change your clothes and go out and play.”

She ran to her room, closed the door, changed clothes hurriedly, and then ran through the kitchen and … out the back door.  She wasn’t sure what had just happened … but … she was glad it was over.

What she didn’t know …was that it was just beginning ….

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Unfortunately, child predators are often the people closest to the child.  Please look for the signs.  Trust your own instincts.  And, protect your children.  Don’t rely on them to tell you something is wrong.  They won’t, unless you have talked to them, beforehand.  Prepare them.  Let them know … before it happens … that they can “tell someone,” no matter who the abuser is.

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I hope that you will also take some time to drop by website, at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com and look at this beautiful book, “The Promise Book; Tell Someone,” aimed at helping parents talk with their small children about child predators in a way that is not frightening or intimidating.

So, you are now really seeing the different sides of Debbie Barth … because … “this is really Debbie Barth.”

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 Debbie Barth: 11/16/2016 at 3:50 pm EDT
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