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When Did “Rich” Become A Bad Word?

I make it a habit to respect other people’s Facebook profile pages, therefore, when I see something that I don’t agree with, or that is downright upsetting … I just keep on moving.  And, I expect the same respect from others, concerning my page.  Now, that does not mean that I will not let off a little steam on MY profile.  So, here goes.

 I just read some “words of wisdom” from someone … which is, in my opinion … the worst advice one could give, but … does sum up why America is no longer a well-respected country, known for its pride in ,.. and commitment for … excellence. 

This “Life Guru” suggests there is no difference is a $5.00 bottle of wine and a $200.00 bottle of wine.  It’s just “grape juice.”  I would suggest the Guru as never had a really good $200.00+ bottle of wine.  There is most certainly a difference. 

The Guru suggests that there is no difference in a Honda or a Mercedes-Benz … both will “get you there.”  I would suggest that it isn’t just about the “destination” … it IS about how you get there, as well.   I could go on and use the modest home/mansion example (it’s all just living space to the “Guru.” … clothes …. on and on.  Trust me, there is a difference.

 What really bothered me was the “Life Guru’s” suggestion to parents to tell their children to not strive to be rich … but to be … “happy.”  My thought is … why not strive for both.

 For one thing, happiness is not reserved only for those without a lot of money.  And, “rich” can mean different things to different people.  Basically, for some, just being able to pay bills and live in a comfortable home is rich.  The one thing I don’t understand, however, is … when “rich” became such a bad thing?

 Per the “life Guru” … instead of parents encouraging their child to excel, work hard and to strive for the best life possible … to his or her ability (which also benefits the his/her children he/she brings into the world, by the way) … just do whatever “makes him/her” happy. 

 Perhaps, studying Greek history, or pottery.  The inference is one doesn’t need a lot of money to be “happy,” so why bother knocking yourself out?  Just be average, don’t strive for anything more than you need, and just … “have fun.”

 Are today’s parents seriously not encouraging their children to be the best they can be?  Are they seriously telling their children that they will never be happy driving an expensive car, having a beautiful home, and living life to the fullest??  Are they seriously saying don’t work hard just to make more because “you can’t be happy … and rich?”

 Being highly successful … personally and financially is not only about the money.  Even more importantly, it’s about feeling good about oneself.  It’s about the pride one feels when one looks around at his/her accomplishments.  It’s about one’s self-worth.  Those attributes are priceless.  But those attributes are earned, not just given.  The home, the cars, the clothes … yes … they are secondary.  They are the residuals of the hard work.  And … they can be awesome residuals!

 My point is this … instead of this “Life Guru” suggesting that parents tell the children not to strive for “rich” (whatever that is to an individual) …but to “be happy, instead.”  How about we tell how children to strive for both.  It is attainable … and a heck of a lot more rewarding.

 

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Debbie Barth: 04/04/2017 at 2:46:15 pm EDT

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The Beginning of “The Beginning”

I am excited to announce that “The Promise Book; Tell Someone” is now available at Amazon.com and at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com.  The book is the key to the vehicle allowing parents to talk with their small children about child predators without frightening or intimidating them.  The website, for this book, also includes a blog that will express my experiences, as well as the experiences of others.  From time to time, I will share those blogs, here as well.

However, I will also continue my thoughts on all subjects known to mankind.  So … stay tuned.

Here is the first blog from my new www.thisisdebbiebarth.com.  The subject matter is not always easy to write about, but, it is a subject that needs to be addressed … and, combated.

 

Only The Beginning

 

It was a day … just like any other day.  The walk home from elementary school … was like any other walk.  Yes, it was like any other day … until she walked through the front door, into the living room.

He appeared to be asleep, with his face and body turned toward the back sofa cushions.  He was completely undressed.  He must have heard her come in, and knew that she was standing there.  He turned over, looked at her … and smiled.

She was feeling uncomfortable, and yet, unable to move.  He was lying there, undressed, now … staring at her.  He had such a strange smile on his face.  He told her to come closer.  She did.

He took her hand and put on his … “private part.”  It was so quite in the house.  She couldn’t breathe.  His smile became even wider, even stranger.  And then … he let her hand go.

He said, “go change your clothes and go out and play.”

She ran to her room, closed the door, changed clothes hurriedly, and then ran through the kitchen and … out the back door.  She wasn’t sure what had just happened … but … she was glad it was over.

What she didn’t know …was that it was just beginning ….

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Unfortunately, child predators are often the people closest to the child.  Please look for the signs.  Trust your own instincts.  And, protect your children.  Don’t rely on them to tell you something is wrong.  They won’t, unless you have talked to them, beforehand.  Prepare them.  Let them know … before it happens … that they can “tell someone,” no matter who the abuser is.

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I hope that you will also take some time to drop by website, at www.thisisdebbiebarth.com and look at this beautiful book, “The Promise Book; Tell Someone,” aimed at helping parents talk with their small children about child predators in a way that is not frightening or intimidating.

So, you are now really seeing the different sides of Debbie Barth … because … “this is really Debbie Barth.”

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 Debbie Barth: 11/16/2016 at 3:50 pm EDT
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We Are Not Created Equal – Celebrate it!

EggsWhile browsing through my Facebook news-feed the other day, I saw one of those cute little “feel good” posters that gave me pause for thought. It showed two broken eggs and the legend read, “Inside we are all alike.”

I am quite sure that it was created and displayed with the good intent to make us all feel good … but … I just don’t think that the sentiment was all that it was cracked up to be.

The simple fact is that no, we are not the same inside … and no … we are not created equal.

We are born with blue eyes, brown eyes, green eyes, or various shades of the aforementioned. We are born with blond hair, brown hair, black hair, red hair … or none. We are born with various shades of skin color. We are born with different degrees of intelligence and dispositions. The fortunate are born physically and mentally challenged-free … others are not. I’ve certainly watched enough CSI episodes to know that no two DNA types are the same.

And that is just the beginning. As we grow, our experiences, and our perception of our experiences, are different. We are not the same inside nor outside. We are each … and everyone … uniquely different.

We are born with God-given talents uniquely our own, which must be recognized and cultivated.

I do not subscribe to the theory that we are all the same, nor do I feel that we should strive for “sameness.” I believe that we should bask in our uniqueness. I also believe that we should search for, and recognize, what we do really well …. and strive to be the very best at it. I believe that we should understand what we don’t do very well and strive to do the very best we can. I believe that there are always winners and losers but that … no one … has to always win or always lose.

While cloning is no longer just science fiction, no individuals, nor group of individuals, should fall victim. It is not good for individuals, for teams on a playing field, or in an office … and certainly not for our great country. The uniqueness that is possessed by all of us is what makes us so great when we come together in daily life.

No, we are not created equal … and, we are not the same inside…. as used in this context of this blog …. we are unique … recognize your uniqueness … cultivate it … nurture it … and celebrate it. It truly is one of the things you possess that no one can take away from you … unless you let them.

SUPER BOWL POLAR BEARS ICED

It is a cold reality. The Super Bowl Polar Bears have been iced. One might think the Bears (no, not from Chicago) lost their commercial spot due to the struggling economy. But, according to Coca Cola (who markets the ads) … the bear commercials were just too … passive.

I would guess that there was no family dysfunction, nudity, adultery, people being taken out by assault rifles, foul language, no explicit sexual scenes, no autopsies being performed … nope … just too serene and passive for Coca Cola’s Super Bowl audiences.

So here’s the tip of the iceberg. Coca Cola is replacing the bears with cowboys, badlanders and showgirls … yep … all in one commercial. The commercial places them in the desert, were they see a giant cold frosty bottle of Coke. The battle to get to the Coke is on and the race begins. Sounds like a 15 second “take” on a Sunday night reality show … but whatever.

Coca Cola has made the polar bear demise more … bearable … by getting consumers involved. Consumers will be able to use Facebook, Twitter, and any other social media networks they can come up as a way to interact with the characters and sabotage their least favorite team. Here is a link to a site where consumers can vote on who they want to eventually win the race … www.cokechase.com . The winner will be revealed at the end of the game.

I can already see it now. Family and friends are sitting around the T.V. at the end of the game … the commercial comes on … the end is revealed … and then one can hear someone proudly say …. “I voted for that ending.” Suddenly, Super Bowl 2013 is forgotten, and everyone else in the room looks … in “shock and awe” … up with new-found respect for that person.

Coca Cola … I care barely wait.

“Hi Honey, Guess What I Did Today!” – The Truth and Anthony Weiner

Anthony Weiner at the LGBT Pride parade, New Y...

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Congressman (N.Y. Dem.) Anthony Weiner has shown himself to be … well actually …. has “shown himself” ….. period. I, like most people, have read or watched the media strip him bare (oops, a double-entendre), but unlike most bloggers, I haven’t blogged my thoughts or opinions.

That is, until now. I thought I had better get this blog out before this latest political faux pas becomes stale and yesterday’s news for real. And I also realize that you can’t write or talk about this guy without double-entendres popping up (see what I mean) everywhere. The man is a double-entendre. So, I challenge my readers to read my blog and count how many double-entendres you see, and report back.

I do believe, given the fact that Weiner has asked for a short leave of absence to seek treatment in order to become a better husband and public figure (seriously?) … and that more pictures, even more lewd than the others, have surfaced …. and (finally) the alleged interaction with the 17 yr. old girl …. this may be Weiner’s last stand. (Oops, another double-entendre?) I think that he will resign sometime this week… and slowly shrink away from public view for quite a while. (I do have this creepy feeling we haven’t seen the last of him, however.)

While this particular entry is about “the Weiner” (not going there); it is also about the response of some politicians, the media, and the general public.

This last week and weekend, I have heard so many comments referring to “truth.” I have heard comments like … “Well, at least he did admit that he sent the pictures and that they were of him,” and some said…” we should give this guy a break …after all, he did tell the truth … finally.” I have also heard some in the media, politicians and even some whose political careers were destroyed due to scandal say that if he had just told the truth to begin with, this would have eventually just gone away.

The man is a narcissist who likes to get naked and take pictures of his “weinie” and send it out to social websites. This is what is repugnant and a just a bit sick (in my humble) opinion, and not whether he lied about in the beginning. Of course he is going to lie about it if he thinks he can cover it up. Imagine that …. a politician who lies and covers up his actions (sigh). Nor does telling the truth make him more likable or excusable. Seriously folks, while we hate being lied to … we all have told a few lies in our lifetime, when it served our purpose. I mean, we were all teenagers at one time or another.

Let me just express it this way. If my dear hubby had done what Weiner did and ….in the name of truth … come home and greeted me with “Hi honey, guess what I did today!” …his life would have just gotten …. shorter. And I say that with …. certitude.