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JOE’S STORY

There are so many stories to be told.  So many young …  innocent … boys and girls … who have experienced the heinous acts of sexual predators, at some point in their lives.  But there are still so few that come forward to speak of their experiences, the trauma, the loss of innocence, or the struggles they continue to have.  And … the sexual predators … continue to maintain their power.

I came across Joe’s story, the other day.  I contacted him.  He was gracious enough to allow me to share his story in my blog.  I am honored by his trust and confidence in me.  I am grateful that he is willing to share so that others may also find the strength to come forward.  The only way to take the power away from the predators is to talk to our very small children about predators … and, for those unfortunate to have experienced sexual molestation … in any degree … to … tell someone.

I am always here to listen.

Below is Joe’s story.  I have not altered or edited anything below.
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Joe Lovell

May 18 at 6:04 PM ·

I needed to take time to get my thoughts together before trying to put this into words. In the past I haven’t always practiced patience.

Yesterday I read a post that sent forty-five years of bad memories in motion. The post was regarding the death of someone that made a significant impact on my life, and it was most definitely not a good experience.

I don’t recall the exact month, but in 1972 I was molested. Unfortunately this wasn’t the first time. Two years earlier, during the sixth grade, I was the target of a pedophile that lived in our community. By the Grace of God a family member showed up before the sicko could get any further than pulling my pants down. I was terrified and crying but he quickly made me believe it was my fault and I would be in big trouble if I told anyone. I would later learn this is how they operate.

I never said anything to anyone, then it happened again two years later. I was walking home from work one night, yes, I was already working in the eight grade, when another adult male stopped and offered me a ride home. Why would I think twice? He was a cop! Once I was inside the car he reached over and put his hand on my crotch. At first I froze because I couldn’t believe what was happening. I then moved his hand. A few seconds later he grabbed me again. I again moved his hand and told him to stop and let me out. Nothing else was said and I didn’t tell anyone. Who was going to believe a cop, a Vietnam vet and married father of two would do such a thing?

Some time later there was a lot of talk around the neighborhood. It was clear this was his regular practice. I still kept it to myself, mostly out of shame.

Well into my late twenties I was visiting with my mother when she told me the first individual had died of a heart attack. It wasn’t until that moment that I told her what had happened, but I still didn’t say anything about the second time. She was shocked but then understood why I never wanted to go fishing with him again.

I carried a lot of grief and shame for a long time. Those two events made me doubt myself. I kept wondering why was this sort of behavior coming from grown men. As I grew up I had very few male friends. Heck, to this day I have very few male friends. The experiences left me unable to trust men. There was always the little kid in me afraid they had an agenda. I gravitated to women which was just fine with me.

A few years ago I ran across a Facebook post from the same cop that had been molesting God only knows how many young boys forty years ago. After I made contact I asked if he was the same person that was a patrolman when I was growing. Not only did he confirm, he started hitting on me in the chat. I wanted to puke! At that point I asked if he was still a pedophile and roaming the streets for young boys. Crickets! He disappeared and he never contacted me again.

When I heard he was dead, it opened a flood of bad memories. It was especially heartbreaking to learn his behavior went on until 1987 when there was at least enough evidence to get him off the police force. I have since read transcripts of what led up to his dismissal. Actually, he resigned rather than appear in a hearing and have to take the stand to save his job. That speaks volumes!

Not only was this pervert a policeman and in a controlling position of authority, he was also deeply entrenched with the Boy Scouts. I dread to think about how many young boys were victims. The transcripts also details the Boy Scouts investigation and his removal.

I am sharing this for one reason and one reason only. I know there are thousands of others that need to speak up. There’s no reason the victims should carry the burden. Our communities are littered with pedophiles that continue to get away with it simply because the victims believe the lie.

If you have been a victim of pedophilia, or know someone that has, please speak up. These sickos do not stop unless the get caught or die.

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Debbie Barth: 5/22/2019 at 5:58 pm EDT

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The Sick Hypocrisy of the Left

Kathy Griffin … the bloody head.  Madonna … dreaming about blowing up the White House.  Antifa beating up pedestrians.  A teacher pretending to shoot President Trump in front of her students.  Snoop Dog, shooting the President in a Video. And … a play depicting the assassination of our President.

Corey Booker- “Get up in the face of some congresspeople”

Maxine Waters – “”Let’s make sure we show up wherever we have to show up. And if you see anybody from that Cabinet in a restaurant, in a department store, at a gasoline station, you get out and you create a crowd. And you push back on them. And you tell them they’re not welcome anymore, anywhere.”

Eric Holder – “when Republicans “go low,” Democrats should “kick them.”

Hillary Clinton suggesting there will be no civility until “we” regain power.

Former President Obama’s only response to “What do we want, dead cops … when do we want it … now” chant was that “he understood the anger.”

Truthfully … there is only one person or group responsible for sending out the packages with bombs (none of which, at the time of writing, was detonated,) no one else.

However … for the Democrats and left media to put the blame on President Trump because of his … rhetoric … is sheer lunacy and the sickest form of hypocrisy.

 

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Debbie Barth: 10/25/2018 at 10:36 pm ET

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TOMMY ROBINSON FREED—BUT FOR HOW LONG

You may remember that Tommy Robinson was thrown in a British jail and given a 13-month sentence, for standing outside of a courthouse and reporting/filming a case where four Muslim men raped a 16-year-old girl after she had asked them for directions.  I do identify them as Muslim because of the many reports, in the U.K., of Muslim gangs raping young girls. I do feel this is pertinent.  Robinson claimed he was waiting there to interview one of the four men about the case.

Reports of his treatment during trial … a biased trial against Robinson, and … the abrupt and harsh sentence … outraged many of Robinson’s supporters.  Then, the reports of him being housed in an area with other Muslim men who were serving time for rape and other crimes and deliberately putting him in physical danger … boiled the “pot of rage” over for his supporters.

Robinson’s supporters had claimed that 13 months in prison was the same as a death sentence, considering the presence of Muslim gang members in prison. They also claimed that, while he may have breached a reporting ban, the law was applied harshly and unfairly to him.

On Wednesday, the Court of Appeal said the initial ruling was made after a “fundamentally flawed” process.

However, he is out on bail … and, could actually be placed back in jail.  And, so … the Tommy Robinson saga … continues.

Ref:

http://www.foxnews.com/world/2018/08/01/right-wing-activist-tommy-robinson-freed-on-bail-after-appeal-win.html

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/tommy-robinson-prison-jailed-why-contempt-court-grooming-gangs-muslim-protest-a8472566.html

 

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Debbie Barth:8/01/2018 at 11:10 am ET
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THE TWO FACES THAT DIVIDE

These, in my opinion, are the faces of two people who do the gay community more harm than good. You can see the hate in their eyes for anyone who stands true to their own faith, and, refuses to conform and express dutiful “love” for them.

Firstly, their repetitive accusation that this baker, Jack Phillips of Colorado, … said “we don’t want your kind here,” is nowhere on record as being said, nor has that statement ever been proven.  The truth is that he served the gay community as he did any other group or community in his bakery, on a daily basis.  He refused to participate in their upcoming nuptials, by baking their cake, because of his faith.

I wonder why they simply did not go elsewhere to purchase their cake.  I wonder if they knew of his commitment to his faith.  I wonder if they decided, together, to use Jake Phillips as sort of “example” of retribution for their perceived social injustices.  And, I wonder how much of it was for their “social retribution,” and how much was simply … for monetary gain.  This is all speculation on my part.  But, still … I do wonder.

I wonder why they don’t understand that one cannot force love or respect.  Good manners and fellowship with others should always prevail … however … love and respect are earned.  Personally, I don’t believe that suing someone and ruining their business, resulting in huge financial losses, affecting not only Mr. Phillips, but the employees he had to lay off … is a great way to encourage love and respect.

I don’t believe it’s community lifestyles or groups that divide us … I believe it’s the people within the communities and groups … trying to force their ideology and lifestyles on others … their need to “make others love them” that divides people.  Maybe these two ( Charlie Craig and David Mullins) should consider ways of which to create love and respect … and not divide.

Their pictures are in the link below.

Reference link:  https://www.denverpost.com/2018/06/04/charlie-craig-david-mullins-whats-next/

 

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 Debbie Barth: 6/05/2018 at 3:53 pm EDT

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SAY IT, MR. PRESIDENT … JUST SAY IT!

There has never been a better time than … now … to fire Robert Mueller, after the outrageous raid pulled off by him … on Trump’s former lawyer … Michael Cohen, today.  I disagree with those closest to President Donald J. Trump who suggest he allow Mueller to continue.

I have to ask … why?

The President’s supporters (growing every day) are concerned about the unnecessary damage being done … and, the lives being destroyed by Mueller, who is on a witch hunt, and is striving to take down our President, at any cost.

I believe most of his supporters would prefer to see him fire Mueller.

As far as the Democrats, Globalist, Never-Trumpers, Establishment and the Deep State is concerned … I really don’t care if they get upset or not.  I don’t care if they try to use this against our President and accuse him of firing them because … “they were getting too close,” … or whatever else they might make-up.

Never mind, the millions of taxpayers this witch hunt is commanding. Mueller is no ethical and brilliant special prosecutor, in my humble opinion.  He and Comey botched the investigation of the 2001 anthrax letter attacks that took five lives and infected 17 other people, shut down the U.S. Capitol and Washington’s mail system, solidified the Bush administration’s antipathy for Iraq, and eventually, when the facts finally came out, made the FBI look feckless, incompetent, and easily manipulated by outside political pressure.

I would rather put up with the blathering of unhappy, bratty, sore-losers who are still in mourning over Hillary Clinton, than to endanger this President and the all the good this man has done in returning this country to a country our Founders would recognize.

Mr. President … please say it!  Seriously, let’s hear those beautiful words … “You’re fired!”

 

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 Debbie Barth: 4/09/2018 at 9:15 pm EDT

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THE STEALTH-DIGITIZED CONFISCATION OF GUNS IN AMERICA

I recently wrote a comment on my Facebook page (in poster form), stating that banks were being asked to stop gun transactions on credit cards. So, far, I’ve had over 1,200 shares and … people are still sharing this.  Why, because we are talking about an infringement on an inherent right of American citizens.

There were those who expressed shock, anger, defiance … and … those who expressed denial.  And, those who said it was another “BS fake story.”

Ah … but alas … the words used are fact.

Andrew Ross Sorkin is an American journalist and author.  He is a financial columnist for The New York Times and a co-anchor of CNBC’s Squawk Box.  Sorkin wrote an Op-ed (Feb. 19, 2018) suggesting to several lending banks that they could easily change their “terms of service” to say that they don’t do … or, they restrict … business with sellers of “assault weapons,” and, high-capacity magazines.

“What if the finance industry — credit card companies like Visa,  Mastercard and American Express; credit card processors like First Data; and banks like JPMorgan Chase and Wells Fargo — were to effectively set new rules for the sales of guns in America?” he wrote.  “Collectively, they have more leverage over the gun industry than any lawmaker.  And it wouldn’t be hard for them to take a stand.”  By refusing to process payments for firearms, or refusing to do business with retailers that sell guns, credit-card companies could make it harder for Americans to get their hands on guns — unless of course they’re paying cash for them,” Sorkin suggested.

Indeed … PayPal, Square, Stripe, and Apple Pay announced they would not allow their services to be used for the sale of firearms, years ago … according to Sorkin.

While banks don’t usually (at least, today) … deny processing on “items” … it could stop processing on certain stores, if inclined.  In other words, … if a store only sold guns … the bank transaction could be “identified” as such, and … under a new set of “terms and services” … the transaction denied.  The store loses the transaction and you … don’t get your gun.  It was in your hand … you were ready to walk out with it … but, guess what … your gun/rifle is digitally confiscated from you.  Your right to purchase that guy/rifle has been “legally” taken from you because of any new “terms of service” banks may be considering.”

Of course, good old “cold hard cash” would be the obvious option.  But … this isn’t really about you purchasing the gun, in the first place.  If the “gun store” will not be allowed some transactions of gun sales … and … he/she doesn’t get the financial backing needed from banks … then there wouldn’t be a “gun store,” for you to use your personal right to purchase the weapon of your choice.  That right … and, the gun owner’s merchandise/place of business … has been taken away.  If the gun store goes out of business, it doesn’t matter how much “cash” one has.

So, do I think gun sales can be restricted and/or minimized via “stealth-digitized confiscation of guns” and “terms of services,” a resounding … yes!

Just as the Nativity scenes and Christmas plays have been banned … flags and crosses taken down in certain areas … historical monuments destroyed … and … the erasure of history has begun.

I have seen enough of the impossible, made possible … by a group of people who want to change America to suit their agenda.

Yes … you bet I do!

 

Here is Sorkins Op-ed:  https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/19/business/banks-gun-sales.html

 

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Debbie Barth: 4/09/2018 at 4:01 pm EDT

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It’s So Much Easier to Blame the Sickness Metastasized in America On a Cold Inanimate Object.

It’s so much easier for people to blame an inanimate object than to admit that as parents, and as a society, we are letting our kids down. From birth, children are indoctrinated with violence in the music they hear, the movies they watch and the online games they play.

Parents no longer strive to keep the family unite in tack. Women are having babies with different men. The men walk away from their responsibilities after making these children, proudly boasting about the number of women they have impregnated.

God and faith are no longer in daily conversations, as with patriotism, or respect for authority.

Children are having more conversations, online, in social media … than they are with their own parents or guardians. Grandparents are taking care of their kid’s children, because of drug issues or lack of responsibility … leaving many children feeling abandoned and vulnerable in life and no sense of security.

But changing all that would mean people would actually have to take action. They would have to be less self-indulgent and more involved with their children. It would mean woman and men would have to take responsibility for the children they bring in this world and make, at the very least … a “family” environment for those children. It would mean turning off the violent movies they are watching … with the young children sitting close by … and absorbing the violence being played out … and watching something more “family” suitable. It would mean getting up on Sunday and taking the children to a faith-based institution and introducing God into their life.

No … it’s really much easier to put all the mass shootings, the sickness metastasize in America on a cold, inanimate object.

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Debbie Barth: 2/18/2018 at 6:58 pm EDT
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So … My Here’s My Thoughts On Your Parade, President Trump

I so do love parades … and, apparently … so does President Trump. He also loves our military. With that in mind … President Trump has asked the Department of Defense to explore a celebration at which all Americans can show their appreciation.” He wants a full-scale military parade.

I would think people would welcome a parade honoring our military. Some do … but … many (especially on the left) are not, at all … happy … about the parade.

The left … and, some on the right … are questioning the expense of the parade. It would go into the millions. Some suggest that it would be better to take the money it would take to initiate a parade … and write bonus checks to all veterans and military individuals, instead.

Some say that the heavy artillery … tanks … aircraft (if used) would badly damage the roads.

And, of course there are those that seem to feel that such a parade and display of our pride in our military would be … embarrassing.

They are worried that the rest of the world will see us as another North Korea or Russia using a military parade as more of a threat to the rest of the world. They say this is a flagrant display of braggadocio and is really more about our President than our military.

While I understand concerns about the amount of money it would take to pull this together, and there is probably a legitimate concern about damage to roads because of tanks and aircraft … this last part leaves me shaking my head. Never … in my lifetime … did I ever think I’d see a day when people would object to … and, feel embarrassed about … celebrating our military with a huge parade.

I also don’t understand why … we have to have an “event” before having this parade. People are asking why a parade … we haven’t just won a war or anything.

Does there have to be a reason … a defining moment for a military parade? Isn’t simply taking time to recognize the events that shaped America … and, our military branches, reason enough?

At this point in time … we don’t know if we are going to have this grand parade. For now, it’s talk … and, an assumption that if President Trump wants to honor our military in grand fashion, he will.

So, I’m going to pretend that it’s going to happen. And … I have it all played out in my mind.

I don’t think we need a new “event.” I think Flag Day (day of the first Flag Resolution, June 14th 1777.), or the 4th of July (the celebration of our 1776 Independence from England) would be appropriate.

The parade I would like to see … should there be one … would start with the Revolutionary War … uniforms and flag design … and … follow through every war/conflict, through today. Each segment would wear the period uniform and carry the flag, as designed at that period. The music presented, within each segment, would represent the music of the time of a particular war or conflict. (heavy artillery and weapon, i.e., tanks and aircraft, optional.)

The parade should end at the Arlington Cemetery … with a 21-gun salute, to honor all the fallen. The President would speak … and … there would be a fireworks display.

To defray the costs … Giant Corporations should “pay it forward” by donating funds for one of the many “period” segments.

Designers should come forward and donate their time recreating the uniforms of the period and Manufacturers should volunteer to make the uniforms.

The different bands should come from different high schools across America. And … all participants in the parade should be military personnel … and, veterans.

Wide screens should be put in place all over strategic spots and provide by broadcasting companies.

Hotels in Washington … and, across America should offer the lowest rates possible for traveling military personnel (and veterans) to come together at a location, in order to watch, and celebrate their service to this country.

Airlines should offer all military personnel and veterans traveling to take part in the parade, or to be a part of a local celebration, the lowest fares possible.

Okay … that is the highlighted version. Of course, the devil is in the details. And, of course … getting support from companies and the airlines is a pipe dream … but oh … what a grand parade and day … that would be!

I do so love a parade … but … it’s a long march from an idea to reality. However, with President Trump, he has a way of making the impossible …possible. And … he so loves a parade!

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Debbie Barth: 2/09/2018 at 10:09 pm EDT
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JERRY JONES: DAMNED IF HE DOES-DAMNED IF HE DOESN’T

I’ve seen so many reactions to Jerry Jone’s latest statement, stating the players will stand or stay … in the locker room.

I think those that didn’t like Jerry Jones will still not like Jerry Jones.

Those who hate the Cowboys … will continue to hate the Cowboys.

I believe those who never liked Football, will still not watch football.  Some of those are sure to say it’s a “boycott” instead of admitting they don’t like the fact that it interrupts their prime television shows. Or, maybe they just don’t like football.

Those who never stopped watching football … will continue to watch football.

Those who refused to watch players who disrespected our flag and country, but do like the game of football, are delighted that Jerry Jones has finally put his foot down … on the kneeling down.  The message sent and acknowledged.

There is one group, however, I find … perplexing.  This is the group who is calling on a total boycott of the NFL organization … the coaches and players who kneel … and, even the coaches and players who have never knelt and have always shown respect to the flag and our country.

I have never been a fan of an all-out, total boycott … of anything.  I don’t understand why people who have always paid their respects to our flag and country should be punished because of the players … coaches … and the NFL Organization … at the Corporate level … who don’t.

But … I digress … my main frustration or … perhaps … wonder … is why people who are demanding the players (rightfully so), the coaches, et al … pay respect to our flag and country, are now … again … upset with … Jerry Jones.

He knelt with his team before the National Anthem and stood for the Anthem.  But the boycotters were not satisfied.  Most of his “Cowboy” fans and the general public, overall … demanded more, before they would watch a Cowboy’s game again.

So, Jerry Jones … listened to the people.  He publicly made it clear that the flag and this country do supersede the players on his team.  He made it clear that the players will stand during the National Anthem or they can stay in the locker room.

He did what was asked … no … demanded of him … and “lo and behold” … the same boycotters are even more upset with Jerry Jones.  I’ve seen statements accusing him of only doing this for money … or that “it’s too little, too late.”

My question to the boycotters (as it relates to Jerry Jones and the Cowboys) is … what is the point?  What are you trying to accomplish?  Are you sending the message to those who disrespect the flag that this is unacceptable and use it as a “teaching moment” for those morons … or … are you wanting to completely and relentlessly destroy people’s lives, with no regard to the actual results … even when your demands have been met?

In this case … Jerry Jones is damned if he does and … damned if he doesn’t.

 

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/jerry-jones-nfl-cant-tolerate-players-disrespecting-flag-013539091–spt.html

 

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Debbie Barth: 10/09/2017 at 9:31pm EDT
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When Did “Rich” Become A Bad Word?

I make it a habit to respect other people’s Facebook profile pages, therefore, when I see something that I don’t agree with, or that is downright upsetting … I just keep on moving.  And, I expect the same respect from others, concerning my page.  Now, that does not mean that I will not let off a little steam on MY profile.  So, here goes.

 I just read some “words of wisdom” from someone … which is, in my opinion … the worst advice one could give, but … does sum up why America is no longer a well-respected country, known for its pride in ,.. and commitment for … excellence. 

This “Life Guru” suggests there is no difference is a $5.00 bottle of wine and a $200.00 bottle of wine.  It’s just “grape juice.”  I would suggest the Guru as never had a really good $200.00+ bottle of wine.  There is most certainly a difference. 

The Guru suggests that there is no difference in a Honda or a Mercedes-Benz … both will “get you there.”  I would suggest that it isn’t just about the “destination” … it IS about how you get there, as well.   I could go on and use the modest home/mansion example (it’s all just living space to the “Guru.” … clothes …. on and on.  Trust me, there is a difference.

 What really bothered me was the “Life Guru’s” suggestion to parents to tell their children to not strive to be rich … but to be … “happy.”  My thought is … why not strive for both.

 For one thing, happiness is not reserved only for those without a lot of money.  And, “rich” can mean different things to different people.  Basically, for some, just being able to pay bills and live in a comfortable home is rich.  The one thing I don’t understand, however, is … when “rich” became such a bad thing?

 Per the “life Guru” … instead of parents encouraging their child to excel, work hard and to strive for the best life possible … to his or her ability (which also benefits the his/her children he/she brings into the world, by the way) … just do whatever “makes him/her” happy. 

 Perhaps, studying Greek history, or pottery.  The inference is one doesn’t need a lot of money to be “happy,” so why bother knocking yourself out?  Just be average, don’t strive for anything more than you need, and just … “have fun.”

 Are today’s parents seriously not encouraging their children to be the best they can be?  Are they seriously telling their children that they will never be happy driving an expensive car, having a beautiful home, and living life to the fullest??  Are they seriously saying don’t work hard just to make more because “you can’t be happy … and rich?”

 Being highly successful … personally and financially is not only about the money.  Even more importantly, it’s about feeling good about oneself.  It’s about the pride one feels when one looks around at his/her accomplishments.  It’s about one’s self-worth.  Those attributes are priceless.  But those attributes are earned, not just given.  The home, the cars, the clothes … yes … they are secondary.  They are the residuals of the hard work.  And … they can be awesome residuals!

 My point is this … instead of this “Life Guru” suggesting that parents tell the children not to strive for “rich” (whatever that is to an individual) …but to “be happy, instead.”  How about we tell how children to strive for both.  It is attainable … and a heck of a lot more rewarding.

 

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Debbie Barth: 04/04/2017 at 2:46:15 pm EDT

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